Agencies

So how did we choose our adoption agency? How many are there where we live?
We chose Child and Family Services of Northwest Michigan, a local non-profit agency that has been open since 1937. Not only do they do domestic infant adoptions but also foster to adopt programs, birth mother counseling, continuous references and counseling post placement, and other community programs that help children (safe haven, etc). Their counselor's were black and white, at first no we are not accepting new prospective adoption parents and no we do know when. They had our answers and were sharp, no beating around the bush. It was a few months until we received the call that they were holding an orientation and after your classes ($) then you may start the paperwork ($), and then cane the homestudy ($).
There were only 5 other couples in our classes, alright small pool of prospects. I just found out the pool has grown to 11, not feeling fantastic about that. I don't like that they have brought in more couples when none of us have been placed yet, more couples = more money for the agency. Unfortunately all agencies are still businesses and all businesses still want/need money.
I e-mail our social worker/counselor about once a week and I don't know why, I know she will contact me if anything develops but I think it is my insecurity that I want to make sure she has not forgotten us. I know she hasn't forgotten but I like to just reassure myself.
So we continue to wait and wait, I ask myself if there are not any birthmothers what is the infant social worker doing? Is she out advocating? Is she out at these schools where I hear there are pregnant teens? How about the local colleges? I know we can bring our own birthmother but really that is not my job, if it were I would be a social worker at an adoption agency and I wouldn't need an agency I could use a lawyer.
How many questions/emails can I ask/send before I tick off/aggravate the social worker/agency. If I tick them off then it only delays us more and punishes my husband. At the same time I think to myself, they are suppose to be working for us?