Love

As we are approaching our 7 month on the prospective adoptive parent waiting list for "our little angel"  a recent occurrence took place that I want to be clear about.  We would gratefully accept phone calls, e-mails, and/or meetings with any potential birth mothers/parents even if they are just "thinking" about adoption.  It is the answer to a question that we approached in the beginning stages of adoption, "is it better to have love and lost or to have never loved at all"?  We (Art and I) both believe that it is better to love and lose then to have loved at all, so what does that mean?  It means that we are willing to take any risk involving the placement of an infant and/or "our angel".  All we want is the best for the birth mother/parents and infant.  We do not want anyone to be afraid to pass along our name, number, and e-mail address in fear the birth mother/parents will not choose us.  I may blog about the loss but just to have the chance to meet these selfless, loving, and giving women/men that may or may not place with us is hope, inspiration, and an overall amazing experience. Our biggest concern is the safety and happiness of birth mother, birth father, and baby.
Once the hurdle of being chosen is over and "our angel" is home birth parents still have up to 6 weeks to reverse the adoption and bring baby home with them.  So even after being chosen, going through how ever many birth parents, we may still lose our baby before adoption is finalized.  So every potential birth mother/parents that would like to speak to us only will make us stronger in the end.  Hard to think that way now but when we are placed and if birth mother/parents reverse the adoption this period time we are currently in will seem like a piece of cake.
Thank you everyone for continuing to spread the word and please continue to spread the word looking for our little one.