Foster Home Visit

So we had our first foster home visit, there will be two more max.  So as we did for the infant adoption homestudy we were running around like crazy trying to clean up and organize the house.  One thing I do have to say is that there is much less stress involved with this homestudy then the infant adoption program.  Art and I feel so much more comfortable and in sync with the whole adopt from foster care idea.  With the infant adoption program I feel like we were expected to "impress" the birthmother.  For example we received a phone call from the agency saying that there were 2 birthmothers that came in and chose couples to interview.  There are 11 prospective adoptive couples in our pool and we were first on this new list.  Out of the 11 couples, there were 6 couples chosen to be interviewed, we were not one of them.  So I asked why, our social worker said because the one birthmother said that our daycare situation was too complicated and seemed like the baby would always be in daycare.  The other birthmother did not like that we did not have our infertility sob story in our book.  First of all if our social worker knew anything about us she would have known our child would never have been in daycare until he/she was old enough and by choice.  Second of all I did my book the exact way the "14 year veteran" social worker told us to do it and she said to keep it light and fun.  Once we captured the birthmother's attention we would have met them and explained face to face "our story".  I was just shocked the day we received this news.  Art was in the hospital for his back and then we received the giant "you suck" phone call from our agency.  I was extremely hard on my self about it because I put the book together, I honestly have never worked on anything that hard in my entire life.  I was devastated.  So I picked up the book from our great social worker and brought it home changed the wording under the daycare proportion and have not added our so story or returned the book yet, it has been 2 1/2 weeks.  I don't know if I want to return the book, Art doesn't care because he really likes the adopt from foster care idea much better.
The children from foster care ultimately want to be reunited with their families but in some circumstances that does not happen and then they really want a home and family.  Art and I are really looking to bring children into our home and have a family.  We know it will not be easy but either is raising a baby and the unknown physical and/or mental genetic disabilities that could occur.  With adoption from foster care we would know ahead of time and the resources are available right at our agency office.  Adopting from foster care we would not have to "impress" the children, we would just need love, patience, support, and compassion.  Right now we are still on the infant adoption program, we can dual enroll because the infant program we paid for everything and the Michigan foster licensing takes awhile and they do not care if you are on both.  We still have classes to take (January), paperwork to fill out, autobiographies (16 pages each), things to fix at the house (minor changes), finger printing, physicals, references, state approval & license number assigned, and more home visits.  We will see where our journey takes us?????????????????????